If you've just received your cremation jewellery and you're not sure where to start — you're not alone. Most people have never done this before. This guide walks you through it simply and gently, one step at a time.
What is cremation jewellery?
Cremation jewellery is a specially designed piece — a pendant, necklace, ring or locket — that includes a small sealed compartment to hold a portion of ashes. It lets you carry a piece of your loved one with you, every day, wherever you go.
Each piece holds only a small symbolic amount — typically about 1/8 of a teaspoon. The rest of the ashes remain in the urn. Many families choose cremation jewellery so multiple relatives can each carry a piece close to their heart.
Before you begin — it's okay to take your time
There's no rush.
Many people find this process emotional — and that's completely normal. You might want to have a trusted friend or family member with you. You might want to do it in private. Either way is right.
The process itself is simple. What matters most is that you're doing it with love and intention. That's always enough.
What you'll need to prepare
Before you begin, take a few moments to set up your space. Every Forever Urns NZ order includes a complimentary ash handling kit — a small funnel and scoop designed specifically for this process. Here's what to gather:
01
Clean workspace
A well-lit, draft-free area. Lay down a soft cloth or paper towel to catch any spillage and keep everything within reach.
02
Ash handling kit
Included with every Forever Urns NZ order — a small funnel and scoop designed specifically for filling cremation jewellery.
03
Shallow tray
Place a small tray or bowl beneath the jewellery to catch any ashes. Practical, respectful, and reduces any stress about spillage.
Step-by-step guide to filling cremation jewellery
Take your time with each step. There is no rush. If you need to pause at any point — that's completely okay.
1
Secure the jewellery
Stabilise your piece so it stays upright and steady. A small box or a piece of sticky tack works well to hold it in place. You can also ask a trusted friend or family member to hold it gently — having someone beside you can make this feel less daunting.
2
Open the compartment
Most cremation jewellery features a small screw cap or removable closure that reveals the inner chamber. Carefully unscrew or open this compartment — take your time and don't force it. If it feels stiff, try a very gentle twist in the opposite direction first.
3
Funnel the ashes
Insert the small funnel from your ash handling kit into the opening. Use the scoop to gently transfer a small amount of ash through the funnel. About 1/8 of a teaspoon is all that's needed — cremation jewellery holds a symbolic portion, not a significant amount. Don't overfill as this can make sealing difficult.
4
Seal the chamber
Screw or close the compartment back securely. For permanent peace of mind, apply a small amount of clear epoxy glue or jewellery adhesive around the closure. This creates a permanent seal so you never have to worry about the compartment coming loose. Let the glue dry completely — at least one hour — before wearing.
5
Clean and wear your jewellery
Wipe the exterior of your jewellery gently with a soft cloth to remove any fingerprints or residue. Your cremation jewellery is now ready to wear — a lasting, personal tribute to the one you love. Wear it knowing they are always close.
Additional tips for success
- Work slowly. This process is delicate and meaningful. There is no benefit to rushing. Take each step at your own pace.
- Seek help if needed. If you feel unsure or overwhelmed, ask a trusted friend or family member to help. Many people find it comforting to share this moment rather than do it alone.
- Don't worry about small spillage. A tiny amount of ash is inevitable. Working over a soft cloth means nothing is lost. What matters is the intention behind the act.
- Handle with care. Cremation jewellery is designed to be durable and worn daily — but it is also a keepsake with deep personal meaning. Treat it with the care it deserves.
- Pet ashes work the same way. If you're filling jewellery with pet ashes, the exact same process applies. The amount needed is identical.
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Frequently asked questions
These are the questions we hear most often from NZ families. If yours isn't answered here — contact us directly and we'll help.
How much ash goes into cremation jewellery?
Very little — typically about 1/8 of a teaspoon. Cremation jewellery holds a symbolic portion, not a significant amount of ashes. The rest remain safely in the urn.
Can I fill cremation jewellery myself?
Yes. Every Forever Urns NZ order includes a small ash handling kit with a funnel and scoop, making it straightforward to do at home. This guide walks you through every step.
What if I spill some ashes?
Don't panic. Work over a soft cloth or tray to catch any spillage. A small amount is inevitable — what matters is that the compartment is filled and sealed securely. Take a breath and continue at your own pace.
Should I seal cremation jewellery permanently?
Most people do. A small amount of clear epoxy or jewellery adhesive around the closure gives permanent peace of mind. Let it dry fully — at least one hour — before wearing your jewellery.
Can cremation jewellery hold pet ashes?
Yes — the same process applies for pet ashes as for human ashes. The amount needed is identical and the ash handling kit works just as well.
What if my jewellery didn't come with a funnel?
You can make a simple funnel from a small piece of stiff paper — roll it into a cone shape. A toothpick or small spoon can also be used to guide ashes into the compartment. Take your time and work slowly.
Honouring your loved one
Cremation jewellery is more than an accessory. It's a daily act of remembrance — a way of saying, quietly and privately, that the person you lost still travels with you.
Whether you choose a delicate silver pendant, a rose gold locket, or a simple ring — the piece you carry is as individual as the life it honours. Browse our full range of cremation jewellery including pendants, necklaces, rings and charms. Every piece is handcrafted, every order includes an ash handling kit, and every delivery is handled with the care and dignity your family deserves.
If you're looking for cremation jewellery in New Zealand — we're here. NZ owned, NZ operated, and committed to helping your family find something truly meaningful.
D&T
Dan & Tania — Forever Urns NZ
NZ owned and operated · Based in Auckland
We started Forever Urns to help NZ families find a memorial that truly honours their loved one. Every piece in our collection is chosen with care and every order is packed by us personally. If you have questions about our jewellery or need help choosing the right piece — we're real people and we're always here to help.
Reach us at orders@forever-urns.co.nz or +64 9 558 5978.
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